When your partner is also as interested as you are, then sex is a daily necessity. The more you do it and like it, the more it becomes a necessity. When your partner is more interested in other things than you are in bed or not interested in bed, then it becomes luxury. If you don’t have a partner, then it becomes a luxury if you are not interested in paying for it.
However, society is advancing by leaps and bounds and this imperative need to get a date at all costs has disappeared. That is precisely why luxury escorts and sites like tube8 with porn content are proliferating more and more, since they have discovered that the demand is greater and that they can fulfill very specific desires.
Do humans need to have sex?
People are social animals. Is social contact a luxury or a necessity? Consider that without contact with other humans, we won’t die. But we won’t be very happy either. Sex is somewhere along that same axis: certainly closer to the “luxurious” end than having any human contact at all, but many of us will not feel like fully realized individuals without it.
This question comes up a lot in gender debates, where men who harass women, say, a stalker, will often say that they could not resist, or that they were somehow helpless in the face of their urges.
This pisses a lot of people off because it’s not an excuse for anything. Of course, people are perfectly capable of not harassing others. So to emphasize that, some women may say “men don’t need sex.” I understand the motivation for saying it, but it always bothers me a little. It’s like saying “men don’t need fresh air.” It’s a thing you don’t like to say in response to a loveless act. It’s true that men are not entitled to sex. It’s also true that men don’t need sex from any specific woman. But if we’re going to place it on the necessary-luxury spectrum, it’s certainly more of a necessity than, say, having access to high-speed Internet.
I don’t see why people shouldn’t have sympathy with the idea of men struggling with their sexual urges. That doesn’t have to mean accepting any of his nonsense. I love sex, but I think sex and the desire for it is distracting and gets in the way of self progress sometimes. I have made many bad decisions due to lack of self control and being horny. I have put those days behind me and now see sex and having a partner as low on my list of needs.